How to heal from Trauma (maybe all mental issues)
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healing is the bodies response to safety, both external safety (financial, no threat, loving people), and internal safety(no brutal inner critic, self shame…)
we cant heal ourselves, the system knows how to heal ourselves and does it as soon as its safe.
healing is a subconscious process our body does, when he feels safe, all we can do is try to provide the safety to our body through our decisions.
| Seed germinates if the seed has: | Body starts healing from trauma if he has: |
| Warmth | Love |
| Water | Enough liquidity(money) and a safe shelter |
| Oxygen | Space to breathe, no immediate deadlines, huge projects… |
| consistently so the seed doesnt germinate if those conditions are met for 1 day, he waits until he trusts that the conditions are and stay favorable | consistently so the body doesnt heal when he has enough money for one day but rather when he realizes that conditions are and stay safe now |
if you have mental issues and arent healing, its not your fault, its not that you arent trying hard enough, rather it means your body doesnt feel safe enough yet to initiate the process. Instead of trying harder, one should try to identify the reasons that prevent the body from feeling safe and remove or reduce them.
❌ “Why am I not healing? What’s wrong with me? I’m doing therapy, journaling, trying so hard…”
➡️ This leads to self-blame, exhaustion, and even more dysregulation.
✅ “Okay — if healing isn’t happening, it’s not my fault. My body must still feel unsafe. So what can I change to support safety?”
➡️ This leads to self-compassion and empowered action.
meditation, therapy, journaling, reading self help books can definitely signal safety to your body and can help you understand and decide which is huge but they are not healing, they are only tools that can support healing.
- Real progress often comes from external shifts:
- Ending contact with harmful people
- Leaving the job that’s frying your nervous system
- Taking a sabbatical
- Saying “no” to hustle culture
- Finding one safe person who truly sees you